Merriam-Webster defines the word compare as the following:
com – pare (verb): to look at (two or more things) closely in order to see what is similar or different about them or in order to decide which one is better; to be as good or as bad as something else; to be on the same level or in the same category as something else
Comparison (the act of comparing) has been more rampant in our society today than ever before. Although influences like social media and celebrities don’t necessarily help, comparison is not excluded from the walls of our small groups, our church communities, or even our time with God.
I see so many young-women, that I believe in so much, completely crippled by comparison every single day. Comparison starts in our thoughts and in our minds, and transitions over time into occupying our attitude, our posture, our actions, and our words that we speak into other people. Comparison is not only a trap, but it is also a lie started by the enemy, that keeps so many of us from experiencing the fullness of God.
Jeremiah 1:5 “I knew you before I formed you in your mother’s womb. Before you were born I set you apart and appointed you as my prophet to the nations.”
When we get caught up in the trap of comparison and the lies that come along with it, we lose the ability to see ourselves as God sees us: set apart, appointed, known, cherished, delighted in. Not only are we delighted in as children of God, but as individuals, each of us just as equally known and loved as the other. The enemy loves to use comparison as a tool for us to isolate ourselves in relationships, from those we compare ourselves to, so that we don’t get close enough to anyone for us to actually be healed or live out our purpose that God has placed on our life.
Comparison traps us in an atmosphere of insecurity that prevents us from one of the most fulfilling, fun parts of life: celebrating others with a full and genuine heart.
Psalm 34:10 “but those who trust in the Lord will lack no good thing.”
As daughters of God, when we take a stand against comparison and its schemes, we get to live in the fullness of God, which rings the song of victory that we truly lack nothing in Christ. Not only should we want to live in this truth for ourselves, but also for our friends. Our families. Our small groups. We have to start delighting in who God made us to be if we ever want to experience our full identity in Him! The enemy wants to tell you everything that you’re not, but God is always wanting to tell you all that you are. It’s our choice which voice we will listen to and which thoughts we will allow to occupy our minds, and eventually, what we think about ourselves.
Each of us have a distinct role to play in the body of Christ. It would make no sense, when looking at our own bodies, for us to compare the role of our hands to our legs, or our eyes to our mouth, or our neck to our fingers. The roles and jobs of each part of our body are different, unique, and fitting for what that part was made to do - and it is the exact same way when it comes to the body of Christ! When we get caught up in comparison, we miss out on the beauty of our own role that God has given us. The body of Christ functions better when each of us commit to carry out the role He made for us! So instead of comparing your appearance to your roommate’s, or your instagram handle to your friend’s, or even your grades and achievements to someone else’s, choose to protect the beauty and uniqueness of what God is doing in your life right now. God makes no mistakes! You will see the beauty in others so much clearer when you choose to see and love the beauty in yourself. There is only one you, don’t get lost in a lie that you were made to be anything else. Take your stand against comparison!
Shae // @shaetate