Normally I would write about something that I have recently gone through and overcome. Then, I would talk about what the Lord is doing in my life because of it. I would also probably then apply it to everyone’s lives and include an encouraging message, reminding everyone how great our God is.
And He is great – don’t get me wrong.
However, I felt compelled to write about something that I am struggling with – something that I haven’t quite figured out.
FOMO. Most college students should know what that means. If not, it stands for the “fear of missing out.” But what most people don’t realize is that it doesn’t just apply to us social college kids.
I think anyone can relate to this. Imagine all your friends out having a fun time, with you sitting at home not able to be with them. Imagine your whole family on a vacation, but you can’t go due to work obligations. Simply imagine your greatest desires, yet not being able to go live them out while everyone else does.
It’s not until recently that I’ve realized that this fear of missing out is a sin. It turns into jealousy. It turns into envy. It turns into the desires of our flesh. Today, it’s wishing you could hit the bar with your friends. Tomorrow, it could turn into wishing you had a body like her or wishing you had as much money as they do.
For me, this fear of missing out is currently hitting me like a freight train. I am home for the summer working, while all of my friends are enjoying their lives in our cute little college town. I won’t get into personal details because I think you get my point.
I then came across this, which made the situation a tad more clear.
"You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures." // James 4:2-3
When I break it down, I find myself guilty. Here is exactly how that passage is affecting my life: I desire to not be stuck at home all summer, so I complain. I desire something that I’m not getting, so I put up a fight. I’m not happy because I’m not asking the Lord to help me. But when I do ask, I ask out of selfishness. I then don’t get what I receive because of my wrong motives.
At this point, I would be lying if I said I know exactly where to go from here – I don’t. When it comes down to it, when it comes down to honestly anything in life, all I know is that I have to trust Jesus.
He is asking us to just reach out to him; He wants to help us. When we realize that the only thing we need to fear about missing out on is a relationship with Jesus, we break the chains of “FOMO.” Yet why is it so hard? We forget to realize that everything we feel we are missing out on is summed up and made up for in Christ. He is a good father, and that’s all there is to it.
Long story short, this was not a post on how I have overcome this sin in my life. It is still relevant, and I’m trying to not let it consume me.
In the mean time, I have to remember that the only thing I need to fear is missing out in Jesus. When I fully grasp that, He will come through and shatter those chains. He’s just waiting for me.
"And with all his abundant wealth through Christ Jesus, my God will supply all your needs." // Philippians 4:19
Annie // @anniemilbourn