How to Become Authentic
I recently resonated with a quote from an unknown speaker which read, “Authenticity is
freedom from the illusion of fear and alignment to the reality of love”. This really captivated
me, and I immediately wanted to live in that truth.
“Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good” Romans 12:9 ESV
There are so many lies being told about ideal inward and outward beauty. Because of
these lies, we tend to live in fear and doubt of who God says we are. In order to be authentic, we
must align ourselves with the truth that God is love. He would not have sent His son if we
weren’t worthy of His overwhelming, never-ending, reckless love. We didn’t have to earn it and
we can’t lose it; it is given freely to us because we are made in His image.
“7 Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been
born of God and knows God. 8 Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love”
1 John 4 7-8 NIV
We are children of God, friends of Jesus, and citizens of Heaven. This is our incredible
and sometimes unbelievable reality, friends. If we want to live authentically, we must come to
understand and trust that these aren’t just words, but God’s promises. I think it’s time that we took off our masks made by fear and show the world what it means to walk in the freedom of the
“I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his masters business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you”
John 15:15 NIV
Whilst wearing masks, our relationships with God dwindle. We try to impress Him rather
than pursue an honest and vulnerable relationship. God knows that we aren’t perfect, and He
doesn’t expect us to be. What He does expect is for us to admit to Him that we need Him.
“For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” Romans 3:23 ESV
Jesus gravitates towards people who are rejected, vulnerable, and ridiculed. So, we must
allow Him to clean-up our messes because He is the only one who can radically change our lives.
Our society is all about independence and not owning up to our mistakes. However, Jesus is not
intimidated by our failures and fear. He offers a promising future alongside Him. All we must do
is take off the mask of fear and guilt, and stop trying to please everyone. We only need approval
and praise from God. His love has and always will set you free.
On top of taking off our masks in front of God, we must also be vulnerable with other
people if we want to build community.
In order to have valuable connections with people, we must invite God to transform them.
If we would stop gossiping, judging, competing, and bickering, we could build a strong
community built on truth and genuine connections. We cannot live to impress our friends and be afraid to ask the hard questions because that does not help either of us grow closer to the Lord
and therefore each other.
In terms of building relationships with non-believers, we must be willing to share how
God has worked in our lives. Our testimony is our most powerful tool. However, we tend to take
that tool for granted when we negate or change details because we are afraid of what others may
think of us if we told the whole truth. This fear is keeping us from being authentic. If we would
embrace our brokenness and share how God has worked through it, we would be living
much more authentically.
“But in your hearts honor Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defense to
anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and
respect” 1 Peter 3:15 ESV
Another way we can live authentically is to create a balance between confidence and
We must be confident that God’s love and His power through us is steadfast.
And we must be humble enough to see others have the same value and worth as you because of
God’s abundant grace.
“But you, Lord, are a compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and
faithfulness” Psalm 86:15 NIV
The more we know of His love, the more we can love His people. We’ll be united
through a bond of peace and not fear. Though fear is prevalent and sometimes hard to shake, we
must always remember the promises of the Lord and live in that truth daily if we want to become
“16 I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in
your inner being, 17 so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you,
being rooted and established in love, 18 may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy
people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, 19 and to know this
love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God”
Ephesians 3: 16-19 NIV
Alex // @alex_is_baker