If there is anything that God has taught me over my last few years in college, it has been about friendships.
I've encountered more real, raw, and deep conversations, more belly aching laughs, more crazy adventures, and more genuine love in the last two and a half years of my life than I have in the rest of my life put together. I'm blessed to have amazing, unique, and beautiful friends that help me to grow and stretch my faith, my ability to love unconditionally, and my capacity for unrelenting joy every single day. The people that surround me everyday in college have become more than my friends, they have become my family. We live together, debrief our days together, overdose on queso together, worship together, pray together, dream together, and most importantly fearlessly do life together. What a delight it is to have the friends that I have.
I think back on these friendships and the stories that had to take place for these relationships to happen. None of them happened overnight and none of them happened without risk.
“TO LOVE AT ALL IS TO BE VULNERABLE. LOVE ANYTHING AND YOUR HEART WILL BE WRUNG AND POSSIBLY BROKEN. IF YOU WANT TO MAKE SURE OF KEEPING IT INTACT YOU MUST GIVE IT TO NO ONE, NOT EVEN AN ANIMAL. WRAP IT CAREFULLY ROUND WITH HOBBIES AND LITTLE LUXURIES; AVOID ALL ENTANGLEMENTS. LOCK IT UP SAFE IN THE CASKET OR COFFIN OF YOUR SELFISHNESS. BUT IN THAT CASKET, SAFE, DARK, MOTIONLESS, AIRLESS, IT WILL CHANGE. IT WILL NOT BE BROKEN; IT WILL BECOME UNBREAKABLE, IMPENETRABLE, IREEDEMABLE. TO LOVE IS TO BE VULNERABLE."
- C.S. Lewis
This is a quote that shows up in my life quite often and I don't believe I truly accepted the validity of it until recently. I now experience the truth of it on a daily basis. To love is to be vulnerable. To have crazy beautiful friendships, we have to be vulnerable. To experience God ordained moments through relationships, we have to be vulnerable. To truly get to know someone and to be known in return, we have to be vulnerable. Nobody wants to be friends with someone that has a fifteen foot fortress built firmly around their heart. I was that girl for a long time. I never let anyone in because I was afraid of getting hurt. I was afraid of taking the risk and then not seeing the results I wanted to come to fruition. The truth is everybody that we love is ultimately going to hurt us in some way or another, and everybody that we love we will hurt in return. There is no avoiding that. However the great news is Christ will never hurt us, never leave us, and never forsake us. His perfect love makes up for all the shortcomings of mankind. His perfect love is there to pick up the pieces when no one else can. God wants us to be vulnerable with one another and wants us to take HUGE risks for love. God ultimately took the biggest risk in allowing us to be beings that have free will to come and go as we please, taking and using his love and grace when we need it. He chose not to control us and force us into relations with him but rather stands with open arms ready for us to run to him at any moment. If that's not the greatest example of risking for love and showing great vulnerability than I don't know what is.
I try and live out that example everyday, intentionally being vulnerable. My friends and family still hurt me from time to time and there are days where I want to close off my heart for good, but I'm constantly reminded of the greater reward that comes with the risk.
The Delight Girls