3 Reasons God's No is a Blessing in Disguise
Okay, I’ll admit it. I love knowing what happens in the end. I’ve been guilty of reading the last page of a novel before touching the first chapter, skimming spoilers of a movie I have yet to watch, testing the batter before the cookies are done. The list goes on.
In some way or another, we all love knowing what to expect or getting a head start. But when it comes to real life, we can’t always get a preview of the finish line.
Navigating early adulthood isn’t clear-cut. From college to career, friendships to romantic relationships, we juggle questions and expectations for the future. Having dreams and goals is a good thing. You are unique, and your life has God-given purpose. Your Heavenly Father created you to have desires, to pursue passions, and to seek community and intimacy with others. So, it’s natural to have an idea of how you want life to play out.
But what happens when God says no to something you’ve wanted all along?
When the relationship you’ve been praying about doesn’t work out? The school you’ve been working hard to get into turns you down? The job you dreamed about doesn’t accept you?
Saying “Lord, I trust You” can be difficult in the midst of heartbreak, discouragement, and confusion. But when God closes a certain path, you have an opportunity to partner with Him. Instead of plotting a dream plan for your life on your own, God invites you to live out a real, perfect purpose with Him.
If God has told you no, it’s time to take on His perspective in the matter. Your change in direction isn’t a stopping point. Rather, it’s an invitation to embrace new blessings He has in store for you.
1) God cares about the details of our lives--and wants to be involved in them.
Like a loving father waits in excitement to see his child’s first steps, God is excited to see you walk out this life — and He wants to be a part of it. God looks forward to spending time with you. He cares about the desires of your heart, big or small. He’s carefully crafted you, has good in store for you, and knows how He’ll get you there.
“For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.”
In order to know the purpose you’ve been created for, you must seek your Creator. God doesn’t hide His will for you; in fact, He provides resources for you to follow His direction. Studying His Word, seeking Him in prayer, and listening to wise counsel are practical ways to grow in discernment as you make decisions.
The biggest blessing is often the beautiful reminder that this life doesn’t rest on your shoulders. You don’t need to figure it all out. You’re not made to walk this thing out alone. The Lord started a good work in you, and He knows how to finish it.
2) When we run out of options, God has an endless supply.
Do you feel like there’s nothing else out there for you? 2 Corinthians 9:8 promises that God can provide what you need at all times. When you reach a dead end in your plans, God’s just getting started.
Our human perspective is often limited to what we see in front of us. God knows every person, every place, and every opportunity that exists in the world--and He knows where you belong. Instead of trying to figure out the next option, allow God to show you the next option. He can open your eyes to what you didn’t even know existed!
If you’re running on empty, rely on your Father’s provision, not your own. The Lord knows your fears, your weaknesses, and your insecurities--and that doesn’t stop Him. Your limitations are not powerful enough to stop an all-powerful God. How comforting is that?
3) God plans for the future, not just for now.
Oftentimes, what we set our hearts on closes our minds to the bigger picture. We might see something that’s good, but we may not know the ultimate outcome. When it comes to God’s plan, He prepares for what will be lasting, knowing the results ahead of time.
Whether God closes or opens a door, He has you mind. Proverbs 3:5-6 tells us to “trust the Lord with all our heart,” because He cares about our heart. He intends to protect us, to grow us, and to transform us to look more like Jesus. When you partner with the Lord for your life, He will lead you step by step on the right path —even when you’ve made a wrong turn.
When we get caught up in planning out our lives, we may miss opportunities for protection, growth, healing, wisdom, and ministry. So, if God interrupts your plans, pay attention! He may be protecting you from what you cannot see.
God’s no is a blessing in disguise. He wants you to trust Him because He has established value in you. He doesn’t want you to settle. Dream on, but invite God into your plans. Allow Him to surprise you along the way. As Ephesians 3:20 says, He is able to do above and beyond what you can even imagine.
Liz Richardson // the_lizmargaret
Hey, I'm Liz! I'm a writer and blogger based in North Carolina. In 2017, I graduated from the University of Pennsylvania with a BA in English, concentrating in Cinema and Media Studies, minor in Creative Writing, and a certificate in French. Aside from writing, I love baking sweet (and healthy) treats, having deep conversations over tea, and making memories with family and friends. I'm also passionate about sharing Jesus with others. This inspired me to start my blog, lizmargaret.com, to create a space of encouragement for women to find confidence and assurance in their relationship with Christ.