How to Deal With Major Transition
This semester, summer arrived faster than I expected. Final essays, exams, goodbyes, and see-ya-laters all happened much faster than I would have liked.
As I walked out of my apartment for the last time, I realized I didn’t feel ready to let go of all this year at college brought me, much less to walk into the newness of a fresh season. I noticed hesitancy rise in my heart. Sure, I’d be returning in the fall, but I’d never experience junior year again. Memories of late night boba runs with sweet sister-friends and fulfilled early morning whisper-prayers swirled inside me as I stepped down my staircase for the last time. I’d never be in those same places, at those same times, with those same special people, doing those same wonder-filled God-designed things again. Maybe that wasn’t as bad as I thought.
What are we to do as believers when life transitions tempt us to tighten our grip, to close our fists, to hold on to what we are to let go of? Will we turn from the Father so we can cling onto it all just a little longer? Will we hold on with sore fingers, tightly gripping what has always been His? Or will we run to our Father — palms resting open before humbled, honest hearts?
Maybe you’re in a place where you’re wondering how that last one is possible. I hear you. I think the struggle here is found not within the circumstances but rather the posture of our own heart toward God. The way we approach life transition often gives us a good gut check in revealing where our trust lies.
Let me pause here and say: your feelings are completely valid! Emotions are not the issue. But emotions aren’t always accurate gauges of truth (yeah– definitely an understatement). When we long for what will no longer be, will we trust the One ruling then, now, and eternity?
Ultimately, will we trust God when He says He loves us with perfect love? That He hears us? That He knows every thought before we think it and each word before it leaves our lips? That He sees all of our yearnings and our hurt, our hopes and our dreams? Will we lean into His faithful character amidst the confusion of leaving and beginning? Will we have faith in our good God?
JESUS IS WORTHY OF AN OPEN-PALMED LIFE.
The Savior is forever worthy of our deepest trust. Our God is worthy of our bravest surrender and our most daring release. Especially when it surrounds the people, memories, and times closest to our hearts. We can trust God with everything that matters most to us; He is the Giver “…of every good gift and every perfect gift, with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change” (James 1:17 ESV). He does not give us evil things. Don’t let the haze of an unclear future muddle your perception of the unchanging Father. He cares for you. The very God who gave you those things you desperately want to hold onto invites you to lift your eyes and fix your gaze on Him. He is still your God.
In Jeremiah 32:40-41 God promises,
“I will make with them an everlasting covenant, that I will not turn away from doing good to them. And I will put the fear of me in their hearts, that they may not turn from me. I will rejoice in doing them good…”
Though seasons end, God’s covenant will stand no matter what we find ourselves walking into. Our God delights in doing His children good as we trust in Him — and that will never cease. Hear me, when I say: It does not aggravate, annoy, or bother the Lord to fulfill this promise to us. He literally rejoices in doing so! This is SUCH good news!
Each goodbye, every new beginning creates an opportunity for us to press into the character of the Father in faith. It’s a choice to focus our minds on our faithful rock. He loves you deeply. The Lord can be trusted with endings and beginnings. He is sovereign over both. God is the same Father wherever your feet are. All the beautiful things He gives us are given to point us back to Himself, our deepest, greatest delight is in Christ.
If you find yourself struggling to believe these truths, go to the Lord in prayer. Tell him your fears. Tell him how you feel. He’ll listen and He’ll lead you. And if you have no words, ask the Spirit to intercede for you. Here’s something you can pray if you don’t know where to start:
Father, thank you. Thank you for being a steadfast God in the midst of so much uncertainty. I admit that right now I want to cling to this season rather than receive what comes next with a joyful heart. Forgive me for trusting in my limited understanding more than You. Increase my faith and help me to place my confidence in Your trustworthy character. Thank you for delighting in me and in doing me good for Your glory. In Jesus’ name, amen!
So when you find yourself driving away from campus, or home, or work, journeying into the depths of the new everyday, He is calling you into this season, open your hands wide. Cling to this truth: the one true God delights in you and in doing you good. In Christ you are His Beloved. And the Father is oh so pleased.
About the Author
Nia Attanasio // @nia.attanasio
Hi everyone! My name is Nia Attanasio and I’m a senior at California Baptist University studying creative writing and philosophy. I adore learning—whether through an intentional question or a striking sunset. You can find me watercoloring in a coffee shop with an oat milk matcha (definitely not as pretentious as it sounds). I’m here to seek more of the Father’s heart and cultivate authentic conversation about Jesus. I am so pumped to see how God moves in the coming months!