For The Girl Who Lets Her Emotions Get the Best of Her
“In your anger do not sin. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.” Ephesians 4:26-27
For most of us, our gut reaction to tough situations is to become defensive toward others, ourselves, and even God. Yeah, I said it. Sometimes we get mad at God.
Though I wrote this to the girl out there who has heavy emotions weighing on her heart, I want you to know that I wrote this post to myself, as well. I am someone who finds myself overcome with anger toward the tough situations God has allowed me to be in. I’m the one who snaps at my siblings when they do that one thing that tips me over the edge. I’m the one who sometimes lets Satan in to tell me things that just aren’t true.
I have come to the conclusion that no matter how big the mountain is, we need to stay in check with our emotions. Now, it may not be the answer you want to hear. How easy is it to just sit in our beds angry at our parents, the world, or God? To blame others for our pain, our hurt, our disappointment? Trust me, I’ll be the first to admit I’ve but some undeserved blame on our Father when I’m overcome with human emotion, but He is perfect in all of His ways! (Matthew 5:48).
There are a lot of unsaid misconceptions around our human emotions:
God doesn’t want us to acknowledge our negative emotions.
God wants us to deal with our emotions alone and quickly.
Strong emotions are a weakness.
Let’s break these down:
God absolutely wants us to acknowledge all emotions; He’s actually the One who gave them to us! He commands us to have emotions. He tells us to love Him and love our neighbors (Matthew 22:39). He tells us to grieve, mourn and wail when things upset us (James 4:9).
God wants to us to feel alone? That we are the only one feeling this way? No way, my friend! He calls us to invest in community for this very reason (1 Corinthians 1:10, Matthew 18:20)! There is something so valuable about talking with a mentor who’s also been where you are. Our Father has our backs completely (He’s so good!). In fact, our emotions tell us truths about ourselves (more on that in a second), and knowing how to have a Godly understanding of our emotions is a strength God calls us to find (Ephesians 4:26-27).
There is purpose in every emotion our human bodies experience, but the trouble with our emotions is when they lead us to sin. They are so powerful, so overwhelming, so vivid that we “can’t help it” when we lash out. We yell at our parents. We gossip. We lie. We steal. We seek impure comfort from a boy. We want validation.
I want to go ahead and lay down some truths about why God would give us emotions and what He’s trying to tell us:
They bring us closer to Him.
How would we praise God without emotion? How would we see our blessings without emotion? We simply couldn’t. Open your eyes toward ways God wants to hold you closer.
They guide us.
I know we’ve all had those moments where we think to ourselves, should I be doing this right now? God has His eyes on us in every moment, protecting us at every turn through the Holy Spirit. These emotions have purpose. Listen intelligently to what God is telling you. Our emotions should be understood as nudges toward Him in a specific and unique way.
They tell us truths about ourselves.
This is a sticky one. “Why was I disappointed that my boyfriend said that?” Perhaps your communication needs to be explored. “Why was I so scared when my sister went to the hospital?” You most likely care about her very much. “Why would my friend say that about me?” You probably want to be respected by the people you respect. Let these truths about yourself bring you back to the truths about God: He is compassionate (Psalm 86:15), He is for us (Romans 8:31), He is good (Deuteronomy 7:9). Instead of embracing the sin-filled paths many of these situations can lead to, humble yourself to Him (James 4:10). God wouldn’t put us in these confusing situations if He didn’t want us in them. He only wants to be closer to you. Seek Him, because He’s always seeking you.
I invite you to explore the unknown, to reach out to your community, to challenge yourself spiritually, and most importantly, question how God wants you to become closer and stronger through these present emotions. Ask Him directly; He will always offer you the truth.
Here are some quick reminders for when you see your emotions are clouding your mind:
Ask yourself “Is this what God wants for me?” Ask yourself “How is this feeling supposed to lead me closer to my Father?”
Go to your Bible. He generously gave us a book with all His answers!! (Check out Ephesians 4).
God is most likely feeling how you’re feeling. Betrayed? Angry? Depressed? Yeah, no one experiences more love, frustration and sadness than our God. He watches His people walk closer to Him, but He also watches His people on earth fall into sin just as easily. You are not alone.
We can find rest in Him (Psalm 62:1). Feeling scared? He wants you to trust Him. Be still (Psalm 46:10).
God is already fighting for you. (Isaiah 45:2)
Prayer: God, I pray for you to open my eyes in every confusing situation to see the change and growth that You no doubt are working through me. Please bring peace to my heavy heart and give me rest to my troubled soul. Let me know that You are realer than my struggles. I give my burdens to you. I love You. Amen.
About the Author
Hannah Terry // @hannahjuneblog
Hey friends! I’m Hannah, and I just finished my second year at Grand Valley State University. I’m a Writing Major and a Digital Studies Minor, and I dream of being an Editor at a Christian publisher. God hand-picked me to join the Delight Chapter on my campus in January of 2018, and my life has been transformed ever since! I will be a leader of the GVSU Delight Chapter in the fall of 2019, and I couldn’t be more excited! When I’m not studying or watching recipe tutorials, you can find me in a nook of a library, face hidden in a book, and munching on veggie straws.