For the Girl Who Wasn't Raised in A Christian Home

We often hear in life, “You don’t get to choose your family.” Whether you’ve been raised in a Christian household your whole life, or are the first in your family to develop a relationship with Jesus- we don’t get a say in who our relatives are.

I have found that many girls I’ve met through church and Delight come from a Christian home. However, there are just as many girls who are taking a step on their own to develop a relationship with Jesus. Sometimes, there might be a feeling of loneliness when you cannot pursue God with the people you love most. My mom and grandma found God when I was very young, and they’re a huge reason of why my faith is so important to me. However, they didn’t grow up knowing the word of God, and the same goes for many other people close to me. 

How does one go about having a relationship with Jesus when they didn’t grow up knowing Him? Even more, how does one try to bring their family to Christ?

It does not matter when you start your walk with Christ, just as long as you start.

John 6:37 ESV says “All that the Father gives me will come to me, and whoever comes to me I will never cast out.”

Even though I grew up in a Christian home, I never felt a deep passion for God until my senior year of high school. I even felt envious of people who seemed to know God deeply at such a young age, or who seemed to come from perfect Christian families. However, one of the amazing things about God is that His love isn’t dependent on the age we accepted Him. Just because you may not have grown up in a Christian home does not mean you cannot experience the depth and greatness of God’s love. 

As you read God’s word and learn more about the Bible, you learn many of the iconic biblical stories. However, you are no less deserving of God’s love because you didn’t learn the ABCs of the Bible in Sunday school.

Community is so important.

 Hebrews 10:23-25 talks about the importance of people coming together and encouraging one another. It says, “Let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.”

It’s great to be able to talk to our siblings or parents about God, but there are still so many other possible communities if that isn’t an option. My boyfriend and I do a Bible study together twice a week and it’s been such a wonderful way for us to draw nearer to God. Along with this, Delight was a big factor in helping me develop a closer relationship with God. Looking for a community in Christ can turn strangers into the closest of friends, and give you people to chase after God with.

Be an example. 

Oftentimes, families may be supportive of someone’s faith, even if they don’t partake it in themselves. I’ve heard many people say to not only tell a sermon, but to be one. It will inspire your family to see how you demonstrate God’s love when it is not easy; they’ll be moved when you forgive the unforgivable because Jesus has forgiven you.

Many people say that they can’t fathom the amount of love Christianity ask us to show to each other and that no one can mean it that much. However, if the people who know you best and see you the most can witness the way God has transformed your heart and mind, it will be such a motivating way to lead them to Christ. You may not realize it, but just being an example of Christ’s light to your family can make a profound impact on them.

Knowing Christ is like having another best friend.

I’ve personally found that many people do believe in God and love Him but struggle with intimacy. Like many of us do with an old friend, we don’t keep in touch as much and our relationship starts to wither. Knowing God is no different than knowing a friend. If the people in your life need extra motivation to restart their relationship with Christ, don’t hesitate to be the initiator. Many people just need someone to invite them back to church or offer to do a Bible study with them. It seems so simple but small acts like that can reignite someone’s passion for God. As I mentioned before, having someone to be a part of community with always encourages people to come back to church and seek God. Even if it feels odd, I encourage you to take your family to church or even begin reading the Bible with them.

When we learn who God is, it doesn’t take long for us to want everyone we care about to know Him too. If you are hoping to introduce your loved ones to Christ, I pray this blog gives you some direction on where to start. Along with that, know that God is always working, and He can move anyone’s heart. 


Felicia McGill / @kawaii_felicia

Hi everyone! I’m Felicia and I’m a sophomore at the University of South Carolina. I’m 19 years old and a Math major with a minor in Spanish. As my studies suggest, I love learning about numbers (cringy, I know) and hispanic culture and food. In my free time I can usually be found reading a book, playing intramural soccer, or putting avocado on anything I eat! I am excited and honored to be a Delight blog contributor for this semester and I cannot wait to see how God will work in our lives this season.